Birth-Order and Relationships

8 Feb

Thought this was interesting since Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. A new book from psychologist Linda Blair, “Birth Order: What Your Position In The Family Really Tells You About Your Character,” says that many relationships fail or succeed based on what order both mates were born. And, some birth orders are more compatible than others. Check out some of the findings:

What Works

First-born with last-born: Opposites really do attract! First-borns are nurturers and caretakers, and last-borns often need to be cared for, so this match finds its perfect opposite.

Only child with last-born: This is a good match because last-borns tend to inspire creativity and freedom in only children.

Middle child and first-born: If you’re with a middle child, you’ve hit the jackpot. Middle children tend to be able to get along with both first-borns and last-borns. But any pairing does still require that both partners respect who the other is. An overbearing first-born should be on her best behavior around a more docile and malleable middle child.

Two last-borns: A couple comprised of two last-borns can be a great creative match. But they should be careful of being too impulsive of immature with one another.

Two middle children: Middle children are a good match because of their combined diplomacy and desire to please, but they should be careful of being too deferential to each other.

Middle child and last-born: A great match because middle children aim to please and will support a last-born’s desires to pursue their dreams.

Middle child with only child: Only children like to take charge and middle children are only too happy to have someone else take the reigns.

What Doesn’t Work

Two first-borns: Conflict is likely if you’re highly competitive and both want to be in charge. It can work if you can channel your competitive drives outside of the relationship.

First-born and only child: Ditto for this pairing, which may exhibit many of the negative characteristics of a first-born match.

Two only children: This may not be the best match, because you’re both used to getting what you want.

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One Response to “Birth-Order and Relationships”

  1. Dooty February 8, 2011 at 8:14 am #

    I am an only child and I married a last born woman. We have been married now for nearly 35 years.

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